UHS COACH NYE TALKS ABOUT BEING THE PARENT THAT WE ALL NEED TO BE
The Coach came across a article this past few days which touched a nerve. A nerve that means a lot to me especially dealing with my own kids plus other folks kids. I don’t mean to give a sermon here or stand up on a high pedestal but You see it’s like this I have come across some great players over the years which in turn have great parents (you know the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree, as they say) but I have also have had some players who could be really good but have come into the dressing room with the wrong attitude. And that my friends is where these ” 10 Commandments “ come into play.
What I mean is that if we provide some good positive re-enforcements to our children over time as they play in sports or sing in the choir or act in a play, they in return should be positive themselves in their own life’s. Bottom line is this, how our children act out in the real world stems from how we as adults act and give the message to our kids, simple in my opinion.
You can take this anyway which way you want because it’s your future, our future is out there playing the game, I think it’s time we all make sure they are playing it the right way.
Have a look and enjoy.
10 Commandments for Parents of Athletes.
1) Make sure your children know that win or lose, scared or heroic, you love them, appreciate their efforts, and are not disappointed in them. This will allow them to do their best without a fear of failure. Be the person in their life they can look to for constant positive enforcement.
2) Try your best to be completely honest about your child’s athletic capability, their competitive attitude, sportsmanship, and actual skill level.
3) Be helpful, but don’t coach them on the way to the rink, pool, or field, or on the way back, or at breakfast, and so on. It’s tough not to, but it’s a lot tougher for the child to be inundated with advice, pep talks, and often critical instruction.
4) Teach them to enjoy the thrill of competition, to be out there trying, to be working to improve their skills and attitudes. Help them to develop the feel for competing, for trying hard, for having fun.
5) Try not to re-live your athletic life through your children in a way that creates pressure; you fumbled, too, you lost as well as won. You were frightened, you backed off at times, and you were not always heroic. Don’t pressure them because of your lost pride.
6) Don’t compete with the coach, undermine the coach’s efforts, or criticize the coach in the presence of your child.
7) Don’t compare the skill, courage, or attitudes of your children with other members of the team, at least within his hearing.
8) Get to know the coach so that you can be assured that the philosophy, attitudes, ethics, and knowledge are such that you are happy to have your child under this leadership
9) Always remember that children tend to exaggerate, both when praised and when criticized. Temper your reaction and investigate before overreacting.
10) Make a point of understanding courage, and the fact that it is relative. Some of us can climb mountains, and are afraid to fight. Some of us will fight, but turn to jelly if a bee approaches. Everyone is frightened in certain areas. Explain that courage is not the absence of fear, but a means of doing something in spite of fear or discomfort.
The job of the parent of an athletic child is a tough one, and it takes a lot of effort to do it well. It is worth all the effort when you hear your youngster say, “My parents really helped. I was lucky in this.”
Until next time.
See you after the game,